While going through a breakup, I felt extremely alone. Even if I talked to friends or family, I felt like they just did not understand my emotions. They had lived the relationship with me, they had seen its highs and lows, they had said everything they felt they needed to say to me and moved on with their lives. I however was alone.
Cue a need for Heartbroken Anonymous.
When Naz Perez heard a knock on her front door a couple months ago, she didn’t expect to open it and realize her next opportunity. An upset neighbor was standing at the door, crying about breaking up with her boyfriend of 10+ years. Naz lended an ear to her, providing the neighbor with support. The neighbor said she felt more comfortable sharing with a stranger, and Naz realized that many other people are likely experiencing the same thing. The idea of Heartbroken Anonymous clicked and Naz began seeking out venues to hold the monthly meetings for anyone struggling with a broken heart.
Throughout this process Naz has realized it is more about impact and less about numbers. Even if she only reaches a couple people per meeting, that is more than she would have without Heartbroken Anonymous. “We are all on this Earth for a greater purpose,” said Naz, and right now her purpose is giving people a safe, non-judgmental environment to share their own stories of heartbreak.
Run similarly to AA or NA, Naz mediates the meeting and has strict rules to ensure the comfortableness of each attendee. No cross talking, may only speak while holding a bean bag, and zero cell phone use, are all part of the rules.
“It’s really the blind leading the blind,” said Naz, when asked the best way to heal from heartbreak. “Time is the ultimate healer. People feel better knowing that they are not alone. Be around people. You help yourself by helping other people.”
Heartbroken Anonymous meets the second Thursday of the month in the Fairfax District at Open Space LA.
If you feel you are missing out because you are heartbroken somewhere else in the world, Heartbroken Anonymous will soon have a forum for all to share their stories. Naz also hopes to hold Heartbroken Anonymous pop-ups in other big cities so that others can experience the therapeutic community.
For more on Heartbroken Anonymous, follow them on Instagram @Heartbroken_Anonymous
Naz Perez has worked in production on Ellen, E! True Hollywood Story, and The Bachelor. She is currently a host for the Los Angeles Dodgers and hosts the I Don’t Get It Podcast with Ashley and Lauren Iaconetti.