Thursday, July 27, 2017

FROM THE MALE MIND: DATING APPS

I am lucky enough to have close male friends who tell it like it is. Whether they're mocking my terrible fashion choices or helping me navigate through relationship problems, I can always count on them to give good honest advice. One of these brutally blunt friends is Mitch, a comedian and writer. Today he's spilling a man's opinion on dating apps. Enjoy!

Tinder, Bumble, and Plenty of Fish, the three amigos of online dating, have added a newfound dimension in the pursuit of love. Dating apps, also known as the vanguard of NSFW pics, have become as popular as actual real-life dating. It requires little-to-no effort and allows you to be as shallow as you want, the two guilty pleasures we can all get behind. I want to help you navigate the rigid seas of cyber-dating by giving you some quick tips from the male perspective.

Men choose quantity over quality. If you have a remotely hot first picture, you’re getting a right swipe. We will read your heartfelt bios after we match with you. Otherwise, we swipe right first, and sort through the matches later.

Transparency is key. I can tell when you are trying to hide something. I know all the tricks. Taking photos from the boobs up to look less fat. Standing on your tippy-toes to jut your butt out more. A Snapchat filter in every single picture to hide a lazy eye. Embrace your insecurities, we all have them. At 5’5”, I’m a borderline midget and I’ve got pictures with taller friends to show it. Some girls are into it, most aren’t. But at least I show it, so that if we actually end up going on a date they aren’t as surprised when they bend down to hug me. If you are serious about dating someone off an app, being honest and upfront will help you much more than being misleading or deceptive. 

State your intentions. Whether you are using the apps for fun, for love, or for some good old fashioned baby making, being upfront with your intentions will save everyone time and effort.

Don’t take it personally. These apps are shallow and entertaining. Some guys will say outrageous things purely out of boredom. If you’ve read my Bachelorette post, you would know. Sometimes the ridiculous attention grabber works better than a “what’s up?” As a guy, our main goal is 1) not to creep you out 2) get a response from you.

Almost every girl I swipe through has “take me on an adventure” in their bios, which means that you never should, for several reasons. 1) I don’t learn anything about you. 2) It makes me think you’re really boring because you can’t entertain yourself. 3) Why do you want to go on an adventure with a stranger you met online?! Your parents taught you better!

If you have a height requirement for your guys, don’t be surprised when a guy asks how much you weigh.

We like dog pictures just as much as you do.

Women, when you do have to initiate the conversation, say more than just “Hey”. Be engaging! Conversation is a two player game. No one likes one word answers.

Have fun! You are searching for love through a glowing screen while you are on the toilet! Don’t take everything so seriously. J



Want more advice? Have any questions? Ask/follow me on Twitter and Instagram: @mitchellvirzi
Also my brothers and I will be on ABC’s “The Gong Show” on July 27th at 10pm! Check it out!


Monday, July 24, 2017

SIMPLY STYLIST LA

I had the honor of attending Simply Stylist LA. It was an inspiring day full of panels, breakout session, brand activations, and networking. I left feeling ready to take on the blogging world. It was a humbling experience to be in the same room as people who are at the top of their trade and who have worked hard to get there. Hearing their stories gave me some insight into how I can become a better blogger. 

Here are the top 10 things I learned while at Simply Stylist.

1. Things will happen the way they should. – Ashley Greene



2. When people say you are different than you were 10 years ago, you should say WELL DUH. – Ashley Greene

3. Hire for your flaws. –Amber Farr (I suck at photography and should hire someone to handle this for me. It will save me stress and increase my quality tenfold.)

4. Whatever you do, just have movement. Little movement every day. –Amber Farr

5. Be consistent. –Lana

6. Flower crowns are my weakness. @Cake&Punch



7. Problem solve before you have a problem. –Audrina Patridge



8. Learn how to say no. – Michael Costello



9. Stay relatable. –Gina Ybarra

10. There are a lot of people out there you can learn from. Being able to attend sessions to learn how to balance the chaos of life, how to master social media, and how to monetize my influence, showed me that whatever I want to learn I can. Seeking out people who are doing their trade right is the best way to learn.

Sunday, July 23, 2017

HEARTBROKEN ANONYMOUS

While going through a breakup, I felt extremely alone. Even if I talked to friends or family, I felt like they just did not understand my emotions. They had lived the relationship with me, they had seen its highs and lows, they had said everything they felt they needed to say to me and moved on with their lives. I however was alone.

Cue a need for Heartbroken Anonymous.

When Naz Perez heard a knock on her front door a couple months ago, she didn’t expect to open it and realize her next opportunity. An upset neighbor was standing at the door, crying about breaking up with her boyfriend of 10+ years. Naz lended an ear to her, providing the neighbor with support. The neighbor said she felt more comfortable sharing with a stranger, and Naz realized that many other people are likely experiencing the same thing. The idea of Heartbroken Anonymous clicked and Naz began seeking out venues to hold the monthly meetings for anyone struggling with a broken heart.

Throughout this process Naz has realized it is more about impact and less about numbers. Even if she only reaches a couple people per meeting, that is more than she would have without Heartbroken Anonymous. “We are all on this Earth for a greater purpose,” said Naz, and right now her purpose is giving people a safe, non-judgmental environment to share their own stories of heartbreak.

Run similarly to AA or NA, Naz mediates the meeting and has strict rules to ensure the comfortableness of each attendee. No cross talking, may only speak while holding a bean bag, and zero cell phone use, are all part of the rules.

“It’s really the blind leading the blind,” said Naz, when asked the best way to heal from heartbreak. “Time is the ultimate healer. People feel better knowing that they are not alone. Be around people. You help yourself by helping other people.”

Heartbroken Anonymous meets the second Thursday of the month in the Fairfax District at Open Space LA.
If you feel you are missing out because you are heartbroken somewhere else in the world, Heartbroken Anonymous will soon have a forum for all to share their stories. Naz also hopes to hold Heartbroken Anonymous pop-ups in other big cities so that others can experience the therapeutic community.

For more on Heartbroken Anonymous, follow them on Instagram @Heartbroken_Anonymous


Naz Perez has worked in production on Ellen, E! True Hollywood Story, and The Bachelor. She is currently a host for the Los Angeles Dodgers and hosts the I Don’t Get It Podcast with Ashley and Lauren Iaconetti.