Wednesday, June 21, 2017


Kali Rogers is an online life coach for girls. She started the company Blush, which is an online community with life coaches that can support women via Skype and web journals. I heard about Blush a couple years ago through the hilarious site Betches and returned to it this fall when life got tough and I needed some support from a wise outsider. Kali helped me evaluate what I needed and wanted in life and helped me to make the appropriate changes to get a new job, move, and go back to school for my teaching credential. She guided me to learning things about myself I never knew.

Kali recently wrote a book called “Conquering Your Quarter-Life Crisis: How to Get Your Shit Together In Your 20s.” When I heard the title I thought it could not be more intrigued. That’s exactly what Blush is for. Helping people through the very real and very scary quarter life crisis.

I read the book in less than 24 hours. It encouraged me to stay in my own lane and stop
worrying about what everyone else is doing. It includes personal anecdotes from Kali’s own struggle to get past the quarter life crisis and wise guidance from these personal experiences. Throughout this period of life I have felt very alone. Although I have had support from family and friends, I was under a false impression that no one else has experienced the post college graduation years where you are trying to figure out “how to adult.” Picking a career, filing taxes, looking for somewhere to live, and deciding what you want in a relationship is not a simple task. And this book makes me realize that this is something everybody experiences.

              I recommend this book for anyone who needs to figure out how to get their crap together. It won’t do it for you, but it will give you the tools to successfully go after what you want and get through the post-grad funk. A paperback or Kindle version is available on Amazon.

Note: Although Kali Rogers (author of this bad-ass book) was my confidant for a rough six months of my life, this blog post is not sponsored by her. I am writing this because I truly believe in Kali and her expertise in the book and on Blush. However, the link to her book is from Amazon, where I am a proud affiliate, to provide a means for Kick Back With Cate to earn money from advertising by linking to Amazon.

Tuesday, June 20, 2017


I have reached the point of the season of The Bachelorette where I lose interest. The getting to know you stage is over, but the true connections have not yet formed. While I can harp on how much Lee hates everyone and everyone hates Lee and I love Adam, it is better to just focus on someone from last season.

James Taylor was one of my favorites last season on The Bachelorette. He was the adorable country singer who formed fast friendships with the other guys. He appeared to be a stand up gentleman and after chatting with him, I can vouch for that.

Since appearing on The Bachelorette, James Taylor has been working on his own EP, which is coming out soon. He has also found love via Bumble and continues to strengthen his friendships with The Bachelorette guys.

Prior to going on The Bachelorette, James Taylor was working at a pest control company in Atlanta with some of his best friends. However, these guys were all married and James Taylor felt a bit left out. After some weird Bumble experiences, such as a girl kissing him, then going to the bathroom and never returning, one of his friends applied for him to go on the show. The casting department began calling James Taylor and the rest was history.

While James Taylor did not find love, he did find true friendship. One of his favorite connections he formed was with Wells. While the two are polar opposites, it is the late night hot tub tears that brought them together. The guys bonded over the fact that they were in the same situation, without phones or cable, and not much to turn to but each other.

While he may have played up his Bachelorette mentality upon leaving the show, he ultimately found a woman that brings out the best in him. The way he talked about his new girlfriend gave me hope that there are truly genuine men out there. He admires her no BS attitude and the way that they can talk about anything.

Ultimately, being on the show taught James Taylor a lot about life. While he is still the southern gentleman he was before, he now has unique, worldly experiences that most of us don’t get. Whether it was crying in a hot tub with Wells in Pennslyvania or playing games in an Argentina hotel room, James Taylor had the experience of a life time.

Be sure to follow James Taylor on his social medias to follow the production and release of his upcoming EP.

IG @jamesmccoytaylor
Twitter @james_mccoy_t

Wednesday, June 14, 2017


Each month I receive a box of love and encouragement on my front porch. This month's Loved and Blessed Box focused on creating your sanctuary. This will allow you a place to take a break and fill your heart with God's word and time with Him.

This awesome box from Loved and Blessed included a mini poster, a reminder sticker, a scripture card, a devotional book (Encouraging Words for Women), a pashmina (to remind you that you are royalty), and an encouragement kit. I plan on sharing the encouragement kit with a young lady in my small group at church who is new in her faith.

Loved and Blessed is a Christian subscription box service with a goal to help women share their testimony. For only $19.99/month (even cheaper if you buy in bulk!), each box includes a mini poster, reminder sticker, scripture card, and small gift. 

I enjoy receiving the Loved and Blessed Box because it provides me with encouraging reminders to remain strong in my faith. It is different than any other box I have received. It is full of meaning, heart, and joy. Place your order quickly to receive your own box of encouragement next month!